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Jul 14, 20181 min read
Traumatised people feel unsafe in their bodies
“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are...
Jul 12, 20181 min read
Making things worse
“Kids with a trauma history do not need more punishment, and quite frankly they don’t need more stickers.” - Dr Ross W Greene NVR...
Jul 11, 20181 min read
A different perspective
“See a child differently. See a different child.” - Stuart Shanker The child is not the problem - the problem is the problem.......
Jul 10, 20181 min read
Expressed and understood
“When we can empathetically connect with what is alive in each other, we can restore any conflict peacefully.” - Marshall B Rosenberg ...
Jul 9, 20181 min read
Intentions
“Some of the most important things you can communicate to a child are that feelings are ok, mistakes are fixable and there’s nothing they...
Jul 8, 20181 min read
Community responses
We must come up with community responses that support children, exhibiting violent and destructive behaviour, in developing their self...
Jul 7, 20181 min read
Instead of fighting
“If you manipulate, coerce and bully your children, you will have no power at all. If you lead with humility, gentleness, and by example...
Jul 5, 20181 min read
Children will become what they are told they are
We must come up with community responses that support violent children in developing their self regulation - even if one-to-one were...
Jul 4, 20181 min read
Biologically essential
Relationships with supportive, caring adults as early in life as possible, can prevent or reverse the damaging effects of toxic stress....
Jun 29, 20181 min read
One Person
“Relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love” - Bruce D Perry #Development #Connection...
Jun 28, 20181 min read
Reframe the behaviour
“Take your time to understand. Don’t just do something, be there.” - Marshall B Rosenberg NVR can help. #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV...
Jun 27, 20181 min read
A vulnerable choice
“Empathy is a choice and it’s a vulnerable choice because in order to connect with you, I have to connect with something within myself...
Jun 27, 20181 min read
Empathy fuels connection
“Empathy... it’s simply listening, holding space without judgement, emotional connecting & communicating that incredibly healing message...
Jun 26, 20181 min read
Healing will require a community approach
For children who have been severely psychologically damaged in contexts where the community did not (or could not) protect them, healing...
Jun 26, 20181 min read
Easy to say
“It’s easy to say, ‘It’s not my child, not my community, not my world, not my problem.’ Then there are those who see the need &...
Jun 25, 20181 min read
We don't need to know the beginning
“Our children were harmed in relationship and they will experience healing through nurturing relationships.” - Dr Karyn Purvis NVR can...
Jun 25, 20181 min read
We don't have to do it alone
“A person can grow to his or her fullest capacity only in mutually caring relationships with others." - Fred Rogers #Development...
Jun 24, 20181 min read
Powerful
“For a child or an adult, it’s extremely powerful to hear someone say, “I get you. I understand. I see why you feel this way.” This kind...
Jun 24, 20181 min read
Kindness
“When your child is having a problem, stop, listen, then respond to the need, not the behaviour. The behaviour can be addressed later,...
Jun 22, 20181 min read
Community approach
For traumatised & attachment-injured young people, their experiences have taught them that the adult world cannot be relied upon. Healing...
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