Making things worse
“Kids with a trauma history do not need more punishment, and quite frankly they don’t need more stickers.” - Dr Ross W Greene NVR...
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Jul 10, 20181 min read
Expressed and understood
“When we can empathetically connect with what is alive in each other, we can restore any conflict peacefully.” - Marshall B Rosenberg ...
Jul 8, 20181 min read
Community responses
We must come up with community responses that support children, exhibiting violent and destructive behaviour, in developing their self...
Jul 5, 20181 min read
Children will become what they are told they are
We must come up with community responses that support violent children in developing their self regulation - even if one-to-one were...
Jun 28, 20181 min read
Reframe the behaviour
“Take your time to understand. Don’t just do something, be there.” - Marshall B Rosenberg NVR can help. #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV...
Jun 26, 20181 min read
Healing will require a community approach
For children who have been severely psychologically damaged in contexts where the community did not (or could not) protect them, healing...
Jun 20, 20181 min read
A signal
All behaviour is a form of communication and... “Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs.” -...
Jun 19, 20181 min read
Messages
“Kids everywhere need to feel safe, hopeful, connected and appreciated.” - Michele Borba “Kids everywhere need to feel safe, hopeful,...
Jun 17, 20181 min read
Lacking the skills
“...it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.” - LR Knost NVR can help... #DrRossGreene #LRKnost #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV...
Jun 16, 20181 min read
Hear what they're needing
The objective... “is not to change people & their behaviour in order to get our way; it is to establish relationships based on honesty &...
Jun 10, 20181 min read
Hurt people
“Anger is just loud hurt, sadness and unmet needs.” - Suzi Lula #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV#DevelopmentalTrauma #Adoption#FosterCare...
Jun 9, 20181 min read
Be there
“The key to fostering a connection in the face of a ‘no’ is always hearing ‘yes’ to something else.” - Marshall B Rosenberg...
Jun 8, 20181 min read
Discipline is helping
“Punishment & reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the...
Jun 7, 20181 min read
You don't fix your child
“...NVR begins with the acknowledgement that the child is not the problem - the problem is the problem.” #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV #CPVA...
Jun 6, 20181 min read
Give and take
Your child isn’t giving you a hard time, your child is having a hard time. NVR can help... #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV #CPVA...
Jun 1, 20181 min read
They are stuck
For traumatised & attachment-injured young people, their experiences have taught them that the adult world cannot be relied upon. Healing...
May 31, 20181 min read
Kids everywhere
“Relationships matter... people, not programs, change people.” - Bruce D Perry #DevelopmentalTrauma #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV #CPVA...
May 23, 20181 min read
Assume the best
The child is not the problem, the problem is the problem. “See a child differently, you see a different child.” - Stuart Shanker...
May 22, 20181 min read
Children are not problems
“...NVR begins with the acknowledgement that the child is not the problem - the problem is the problem.” #LRKnost...
May 20, 20181 min read
Challenges
Your child isn’t giving you a hard time, your child is having a hard time... NVR can help #ChallengingBehaviour #CPV #CPVA...
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